That little voice in my head

I sometimes feel like a broken record when I write, but there are some feelings and thoughts that are constant.  One thing I feel like I preach and try to work on is not to worry about what others think...well let me tell you, I realized today that I am not doing well in that area.

 Last night into day I had a truly debilitating migraine.  I was incredibly ill and I felt horrible.  Still, I made an attempt to go to work because, having been the day after a long holiday weekend, I didn't want my colleagues to think I was just extending my weekend.  I didn't think about how it was hard to even walk.  I immediately thought, I don't want them to think poorly of me...yes, I am a freak.  I ended up being at work for a grand total of 15 minutes before leaving and sleeping five hours.  

 I then proceeded to think about all of the times I pretend to be "cool" but I am so worried about being seen in a poor light.  

 Here's the truth; I worry way too much about what people think and I really need to work on that.

 Things that I worry about receiving judgement are below with what I am calling the myth and truth to this perceived judgements:

 1.  My age

 Myth:  People see me as looking young, therefore I must not know anything.  I couldn't possibly be as good at my job as others because I am too young looking.

 Truth:  I am just as good, if not better, because of my years of experience not my years on earth.  If people are judging me based on my age, that says a lot more about them than me.
2.  My baby crying

 Myth:  When Giuliana cries it means I'm a bad mom.

 Truth:  She's a baby, and babies cry.
3.  I'm fake

 Myth: People see my niceness as being phony.

 Truth: I am just a nice person.
4.  He/she doesn't like me

 Myth:  I need to be liked by everyone.

 Truth:  Not everyone will like you.  Trying to get them to like you is exhausting.
5.  If I go to the bathroom after I eat people are thinking I've relapsed

 Myth: If I have to go to the bathroom after a meal, I immediately panic and think I can't because others will think I am throwing up.

 Truth: Shit happens
These myths/truths also imply that I am always what everyone is thinking about.

 Truth: People care more about themselves so get over yourself, Tracy ;)

Just living our best life, screaming

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